Weddings & The Aftermaths

I was at a beautiful wedding recently. It took place outside on a beach and was filled with all the right words of love, fidelity and life long commitment.  The Bride and Groom are still kissing and making love I am sure. But overheard from a young man recently married but the day and time were separated by a few years responding to a comment that the words exchanged was so beautiful said, "But wait until she wants to do her thing. Then the arguments start, words fly and won't stop until she gets her way!"

This made me think, weddings are fine but marriage is like getting off drugs, the high that weddings give, and getting down to the nitty gritty of living a committed life.

At the wedding were couples that split after many years, some 25 or more, Some couples ready to split after only 5 or 10 years. The only couples holding hands, cuddling and feeling the high of professing love were those living together not married or those just getting together. A sad commentary of what happens when one starts on a long journey of togetherness.

The celebrations are fine and should be had but they should be experienced daily. Hard to do when the trials of life, be they financial or involving heath or even differing goals take the glitter and tarnish it all.

I am sure this is why so many marriages fail, the couples stop talking, stop saying "I love you!", and mean it. The couples stop working at their relationship to keep it alive, to keep it passionate to stop thing of the other person and only think of themselves.

Yes enjoy the day. Enjoy the glow like drugs give as you take part in a wedding watching twp people so much in love ready to take the jump. But keep working at your own relationship. Keep the day alive. Never go to bed angry. Never lose interest in each other sexually. Never stop loving.

It isn't easy to keep the fire alive but it takes two to do it every day starting with a kiss in the morning and a wonderful night of love before you go to sleep. Perhaps the day's events have you too tired for love making then at least a wonderful good night kiss will get you to the next morning ready to love some more.