Wednesday, December 26, 2018

America The Beautiful

I believe that I am one of the fortunate people who just happened to be born in this great country, The United States of America. Because without really knowing what they were proposing our founding fathers were being guided by a spirit of love far greater than they could have imagined. Consider the fact that they really didn't believe "ALL" men were created equal since it didn't included those who didn't own land or property of any kind, it certainly didn't include women or anything else that was considered property including slaves. But those words which are inspired by a greater power than those of the brains of the founding fathers really did include everyone, men, women, children and if all had these rights then we couldn't own any other human being. The whole of humanity had these rights. And I might add along with these rights came the obligation to extend them with kindness to the animals, the environment and not just for profit but for the good of this planet.
Not only are we guided by this greater power for us but we must extend the opportunity to live these rights to all others, to be the example of love, kindness and the acceptance of the fact that we are all related somehow DNA related but even more than that, spiritually related. We didn't start out this way but we are being guided to this fact that The United States of America has to be a haven for what is right, just and good not only for us citizens but for the oppressed of the world.
The American way of life, liberty and justice for all must continue to grow until the full truth of this idea is realized and extended to all. Perhaps some day the whole earth will have this notion and there will truly be peace on earth. Until it is fully realized we must keep the spirit alive, this greater spirit who wants all men, all humans to be happy.

Monday, December 10, 2018

It's Better To Love and Leave when It's Over

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Say what you will about loving and leaving it is far better to do that and have the memories than to just get up drag yourself through the day and go to bed unfulfilled.
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The bottom of this blog lists a great song that says it all. AMEN!
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Just One of Those Things
It was just one of those things
Just one of those crazy flings
One of those bells that now and then rings
Just one of those things
It was just one of those nights
Just one of those fabulous flights
A trip to the moon on gossamer wings
Just one of those things
If we'd thought of it 'bout the end of it
When we started painting the town
We'd have been aware that our love affair
Was too hot not to cool down
So goodbye, dear, and Amen
Here's hoping we'll meet now and then
It was great fun
But it was just one of those things
Just one of those bells that now and then rings
Just one of those things
A trip to the moon on gossamer wings
Just one of those things

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Just Friends Lovers No More

The affair started out like gangbusters. There was everything that said these two could never be a couple but despite the differences they became one. For three years they happily shared their desires, actually two and a half years because the affair actually stared to cool around two and a half years after it stared.

Everything was fine as long as they stayed committed to each other but she started to become affected by the other people in her life that didn't want this affair to be successful. She never realized it but she became manipulated by the desires of her daughter who managed to get her to see her old lover . They had broke up because according to her she was tired of being the other woman. He was
married and kept saying he was getting a divorce but when push came to shove he stopped the proceedings and she realized she's always be the other woman. But while they were together the daughter adopted this guy as a father figure, and he was better than he actual father but she wanted her mother to stay in that relationship because it satisfied her needs. So under the guise of her meeting him she had to have her mother along.

This caused friction because the current hot affair couldn't survive when the third person in the room was a five hundred pound elephant, if you get my drift. So they argued until she finally decided she no longer loved either one of them physically. What had been a hot romance cooled completely. He, not the ex, decided that they should break up but she didn't want that. The fact of the matter she started to live in denial that there was anything ever physical between them. The fact that she kissed him first, that she wanted to rent the hot sheets room for almost three years so that they could spend three hours naked and drinking wine while they shared their innermost thoughts while holding each other while she confessed that this was the moments she felt safest no longer mattered because all she saw was she didn't want him to touch her in an intimate way ever again.

He is stuck in a relationship he doesn't want because he don't believe in living a lie based on denial. However, he can't find the words to end it all although he has tried. He wishes she would let it all go because it isn't going anywhere. They are just friends, lovers no more. He truly wants to end it all but I guess he's just a coward and will not do what he knows he should do and cut the chord. After all she is the one who has changed and doesn't want to acknowledge what was actually happened but is not going to happen again therefore changing whatever they had into something he doesn't want and she shouldn't either.  But until something unforeseen happens they shall remain stuck in neutral.

Friday, September 21, 2018

Selfish? Who? Me?

Talking to a young lady who had my interests at heart pointed out after I made the comment about someone we both knew and loved that "She is selfish.", I was reminded that we are all selfish and I responded, "Maybe, but I am a little less!", to which she chuckled. Our phone came to an end shortly thereafter as she reached her destination.

I of course felt I had lived a pretty selfish life for many reasons. but I wondered why I wasn't getting the same reasoning from people like the person I was talking to a little while ago. I fell asleep that night disappointed that the Yanks and the Jets both blew their ballgames. I woke up the next day however thinking not about the teams blowing their games but wondering if people thought I was selfish when I was certainly not.

I went to the 7 AM mass as is my custom still perplexed about what I considered a misconception about my life. This is where the story becomes a bit mysterious. But first let me set the context. At my daily mass I have conversations with Jesus, mostly what I am telling him and occasionally he talking to me though thoughts, homily's or biblical readings of the day. While I was in the middle of expressing my views about my being unselfish a thought of something that happened some 50 years ago popped into my head, truthfully I hadn't remembered this for some years but it was vividly being displayed in my imagination this day.

It was a Saturday. My father was in the last throes of his cancer. We had the last of our 7 children and they were mostly in diapers. I was getting very little sleep working two jobs and going to night college. I would get up at 3 and place my name in early place to play golf. Golf was very important to me. After Golf I would visit my father and mother and sit with them for a few hours counting his minutes left here before he entered eternity. This Saturday after signing up for an 8 tee time I returned home to find that my wife was not feeling well. The kids were already driving her crazy. I really should have stayed home but I would've missed seeing my father and what seemed like a mortal sin, I would've  missed my GOLF (Horrors), so I convinced my wife that she was really OK just dragging a bit in fact I had her do a few stretching exercises to prove she was OK.

I went and played a round and didn't do badly, for me anyway. I was at my fathers with my mom when I got a call about 4 PM from one of the neighbors, my wife gave her the number, my wife was in bed for bed rest according to the doctor who said she had bronchitis and bursitis and would I come home to take care of her and the kids. I really felt awful about this but after all I got my golf in and nobody died. I guess I forgot about this conveniently because this was a completely selfish day and I didn't want to think about me being so into myself I couldn't see the that the person I loved so much needed me and I failed her.

The mass proceeded. After communion I thanked Jesus because I knew he got to me to understand I guess we are all selfish at times and sometimes not just a little selfish, but enough to realize that there must of been more times in my life that I was even more selfish that this time, but Jesus was kind enough to let me off the hook figuring I got the lesson he was trying to teach me. So I left the church with the admonishment of not to be so quick to judge, especially when it comes to judging yourself. 

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Memories? Actual or A Play On What Happened?

Memory plays tricks . But it isn't memory that causes this it is the Id, Ego and Super-Ego that transforms things that actually happened to what a person "wants" it to be.

I know two people who shared a sexual relationship, they kissed, hugged, rolled around together fully naked and shared very intimate moments and actions. Yet one says they never had sex while the other remembers when that person screamed in delightful ecstasy actually thanking the partner for passion and sexual delights.

This dichotomy is not only happening at the sexual level it happens at all levels.  It comes to mind that one person's parent was going through the pain of dementia which included anger, wandering, forgetting and great confusion. The caregiver knew someone who experienced all this including the confusion of figuring out finances and placement in hospitals and nursing homes.  The caregiver enlisted this person's help including listening to the fact the patient couldn't change but the healthy ones could and should just to keep everyone's sanity. Talking with the parent, accompanying the caregiver to hospitals and nursing homes until everything was settled. Help was asked and given even though the experienced one was reliving the pain of what had to be lived with the problems encountered previously. The passage of time has left different impressions of what had happened. The helper remembers the time given with love and help that was needed. The caregiver, as time passes, seems to think no one helped. Nothing malicious in this but just the way it is as time changes situations and people become distant for whatever reasons.

Humans have a way of changing events in their minds to fit the circumstances they want because maybe it is too painful to admit their childhood was lacking parental love and guidance, or perhaps a breakup of a love affair happened because they simply fell out of love and what was exciting once is no longer exciting.  Whatever the reason the memories are tainted by what the mind wants to accept.

My thought is one can never be truly happy living a lie. One has to clear the mind tricks the brain plays upon us because only by finding the truth will we be able to understand who we are and where we should be going on this highway of life.

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Nero (Trump) Fiddled While It All Burned

The most disappointing isn't the fact that our President is a philandering crook that resembles the description of a mafia Capo with a family that fits the description of a mafia family. The most disappointing thing about it all here in the good old USA is that 35% to 40% of the voting public know it and do not care. I'm not sure why but they just don't care.

Adding to the disappointment is the fact that they know deep down in their hearts that Trump is in the hip pocket of Putin and they don't care so much so that they will decry all the proof showing this and they will decry the fact as "fake news" and the investigation of Russian interference into our election process as a "witch hunt" even though they know there is no such thing as "fake news" except that which is spewed out of the mouths on Fox News and the only "witch" that is being hunted is a true one name Trump and he should be caught.

Hopefully our 35% - 40% will wake up and realize before we are taken over by the "Evil Empire" headed by Trump reporting to Putin that there is no good in evil even if they think stacking the Supreme Court and getting tax breaks are good things. Evil Empires have come and gone in the history of the world but not before they wrecked havoc on the world that still is giving the bad effects it gave birth to.

Wake up America before your children and grandchildren pay for your mistake of accepting evil for good!


Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Christmas 1956

Long ago and far away there was Lou, PFC on leave with his love Sarita & his parents Louis & Lena. Good times! Great memories.